So much can be said being the parents of a teenage boy in these days of information! He thinks he’s wise beyond his years. We see the frontal lobe still being developed! As parents we felt that he needed instruction from someone other than Mom and Dad and so we dropped our son, Michael off last Sunday afternoon at a small college in a podunk town in Tn. The town of Dayton, Tn incidentally, consisted of a little strip mall, a Hardee’s and Mo Mo’s BBQ. He will be at a summer Biblical studies course offered by Summit (Summit.org).
My husband, Steve and I felt that with all that we’ve poured into our son his 16 1/2 years on this earth, that we needed some extra help teaching the deep, philosophical stuff like, Why Am I Here?, How to study the Bible for himself and getting a Biblical perspective on world religions.
Don’t get me wrong, Michael and I or Michael and Steve brought Michael up having daily times of devotions. It was hard for me to let go of that only, till the past year or two. Now I realize, I’d been a control freak and hadn’t taught him how to study the Bible for himself. Michael is growing up so fast, he has a good head on his shoulders and we wanted to ensure that in this age of picking and choosing what to believe in, that he hear what God has to say from the Bible, not man’s opininion And that he’d learn how to dig into God’s Word for himself! Ultimately he has to make his own choices. Some may think we are pushing our beliefs upon him. At his age, however, he is still learning and growing. We are presenting, and then letting him decide. We will not disown him if he doesn’t see things eye to eye with his parents. We are simply trying to give him a handle on how to make decisions, to use a filter before rushing into the next latest greatest fad doctrine that has flown in overnight. Let’s face it, we are living in a time when people say there are no absolutes. If 2+2 doesn’t = 4 than I guess they’re right! but last I checked, when I was getting a head count, 2 +2 did indeed =4.
Right now, people have questions and they are searching for answers. As Christians we have a huge opportunity to share answers. I Peter 3:15 says it this way, ” . . . Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect.” (NIV) In my 47 years of life, I’ve learned that I have never fully learned all that there is to know about living a Christian life and being real. It takes a close, intimate, personal relationship with God. That only happens when I spend time seeking Him with my whole heart. Time spent reading His Word and asking Him to show me what He wants me to learn or remember. That also only happens as I spend time praying/ talking to Him. Asking God to help me stay close to His side. Asking Him to help others who are struggling or facing hard times in their lives. Remember, I’m an all or nothing sort of gal, and so it’s either seeking God or not, there is no middle ground. Maybe some Christians want to try the middle ground thing, but I’m looking for what will please God and He wants nothing less than our all. Besides which, what if, when Jesus was dieing on the cross He decided to only give some of Himself? He died to pay an enormous price to right the wrongs of our sins. He gave His ALL. How can I give any less? Take a look at Romans 12:1. “And so, dear brothers and sisters, I plead with you to give your bodies to God because of all He has done for you. Let them be a living and holy sacrifice- the kind he will find acceptable. This is truly the way to worship him.” (NLT)
So, back to this whole dropping our son off business. Well, our house was always quiet before, now it’s even more quiet! I find myself missing our son. I find that my biggest, most important job is transitioning and that I’m not there to meet his every need. I find that I am allowing our son to spread his wings and that I am having to step back in order for that to happen. I have to go back to that prayer time and just ask God to take care of our son, because for 2 weeks he’s out of sight- certainly not out of mind! And it is a growing time for this Mom of an only child. Simply and honestly, this is new territory for us as parents. I’m just thankful it’s a practice run and it’s only for 2 weeks! We will be happy to see him again- and I’d venture a guess that maybe, just maybe, he will admit, he still has some learnin to do! I know I sure do!